Here I am sharing a home with my friend and her son, the boy is 16 and not in tune with what goes around him, totally oblivious of life.
But the mother is a just as oblivious also! Her social time at home is calling me on her way home from work and talking about herself without taking a breather!
I’m home with the cat , the , dog and the house!
Sometimes I feel hurt and resentful, She doesn’t even change the dog’s water or feed him! It’s her dog!!!
I cook dinner, she should help with dishes… they get piled in the sink for days until I put them in dishwasher! Weekend is even worst she lounges on sofa and says I’ll help you later… it’s Tuesday later and there’s no help!
Her shoes, her bags all left on front hall for weeks!
Her room is a disaster I have to beg for the hamper… clothes get piled in the laundry room so I decided to do it for all of it us.
She brought pastries took red bakery string off left on the counter by the coffee machine. It stayed there for a month and she makes coffee every morning!? So being a good Buddhist I threw it away, cleaned the front hall and put all her snacks in a basket into the garage ( we keep a section for groceries).
Today dishwasher broke they won’t come until 3/15- let’s see if she’ll wash the dishes!
Any ideas how to handle this without creating hard feelings? I had try telling her she crises, yells that I’m being rude by criticizing and then she blames her attitude on situations that happen at work or extended family!
Maybe she so devious that she knows I’ll do all in the end!
Ideas are good, don’t be shy!
Windmills of My Mind 
Just do your stuff and see what happens. The dog is an innocent, so continue to care for it. I think that she’ll get the hint!
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Thanks Rob , I doubt it but let’ see!
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love the illustration; lazy people expend considerable energy at being devious 🙂
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I like the way you explain it! Thanks John.
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Interesting read. Some relationships are toxic. Period. Simply asses how important this person is to your life and compare that to the ill-effects of letting them dramatically futz your life, mind, and physical comfort. Looks here we see evidence that people at extremes are givers or takers. You’ve described a taker, and do so from the vantage point of a giver. Even dearly-loved ones and (sigh) family can be abusive like this. Talking to them? Not, I suspect (and you know) going to change a thing. You know what is needed. Your call.
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Thank you so much on your input, has given me lots to ponder, thanks bot visiting 🎐
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Oh my, I would be pulling my hair out. My first thought is to take the dog and leave. I hate to say that she is one the people on earth that cannot see beyond herself, she lives in a world where it rotates around her and there is nothing more, or less. It amazes me how some people can live in a world where they do not see, or maybe cannot see what they are creating around themselves. Cannot see the mess they left, the hurt that they leave behind as the leave the room. Its one of those situations where you either enter her world of chaos or leave the chaos behind, One thing for sure is she will never see herself for what she really is, a slob as she cannot see it.. I feel for you. I would leave, with the dog,. or ask her to leave.
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Thank you! But unfortunately I have no choice I like where I am and to separate it would crest a lot of bad feelings… so I grind my teeth, I laugh a lot and she’s only home on weekends and after 7 pm from 7 am…
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I understand, so it is you that will have to bend, I have been told that we are only given that in which we can handle in life, if you are happy where you are, and that’s important, than be happy in knowing that you are caring for someone who cannot care for themselves, smile as you do it know you are a good soul and have empathy for those who do not. Know in your heart what a good person you are, and in return you have a wonderful little fur friend to love you for it. Keep smiling my friend nothing is forever. And its important to be true to who you are, and when it gets to the point you where you think your going to scream, deep breath and understand she really can’t see how she is, perhaps with your kindness she will start to understand who she is.
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Thank you💕
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Be well my friend, as you know well, life is just a journey and its up to oneself to keep it interesting. 🌹🎶
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