Here I am sharing a home with my friend and her son, the boy is 16 and not in tune with what goes around him, totally oblivious of life.
But the mother is a just as oblivious also! Her social time at home is calling me on her way home from work and talking about herself without taking a breather!
I’m home with the cat , the , dog and the house!
Sometimes I feel hurt and resentful, She doesn’t even change the dog’s water or feed him! It’s her dog!!!
I cook dinner, she should help with dishes… they get piled in the sink for days until I put them in dishwasher! Weekend is even worst she lounges on sofa and says I’ll help you later… it’s Tuesday later and there’s no help!
Her shoes, her bags all left on front hall for weeks!
Her room is a disaster I have to beg for the hamper… clothes get piled in the laundry room so I decided to do it for all of it us.
She brought pastries took red bakery string off left on the counter by the coffee machine. It stayed there for a month and she makes coffee every morning!? So being a good Buddhist I threw it away, cleaned the front hall and put all her snacks in a basket into the garage ( we keep a section for groceries).
Today dishwasher broke they won’t come until 3/15- let’s see if she’ll wash the dishes!
Any ideas how to handle this without creating hard feelings? I had try telling her she crises, yells that I’m being rude by criticizing and then she blames her attitude on situations that happen at work or extended family!
Maybe she so devious that she knows I’ll do all in the end!
Ideas are good, don’t be shy!